May 16, 2022

Practice Feedback Prevention – Ask for What You Want

Practice Feedback Prevention– Ask for What You Desire

If you have not made your expectations clear, its not too late. Asking for what you desire is much easier than you think.

We do not think we need to need to make requests. We presume our friends, coworkers, and staff members will do things as we do. And most of these assumptions are unconscious. We dont even think of it.

The question is why? If making a request is easier than asking someone to alter their behavior, why not request for what you want upfront? Why wait up until expectations are breached to make a request? The answer is simple.

We would never ever kip down work without examining it for accuracy or concern a conference late. We would never ever not send out a thank you card after receiving a present or miss a buddys birthday, so we (unconsciously) presume others will not either. And when individuals breach our unstated expectations, it feels too hard to speak up, so we dont.

These situations frustrate us, but we frequently dont say anything due to the fact that offering feedback feels too hard. Why risk the persons defensiveness? Or we do not think dealing with the situation will make a difference. Or maybe we dont feel we can speak out.

Believe about all the individuals in your life who irritate you. The person who cancels meetings two minutes before conferences are arranged to begin.

Giving feedback can be tough. Requesting what you want is much easier, but many of us arent clear about our expectations and requests.

Im going to recommend you approach relationships in a different way– more proactively.

Ask for what you want at the start of a meeting, relationship, or task. If you want to start and end meetings on time, inform individuals that during your first conference.

If you have an existing habits you desire to move, merely say, “I realized I didnt tell you that beginning and ending conferences on time is actually crucial to me. Moving forward, were going to begin and end all meetings on time. Please be prepared for that.” Tell visitors to your home, “I understood that I forgot to inform you that we dont wear shoes in our house.” Its never ever too late. Do not expect individuals to think youre annoyed and alter their behavior without you making a demand. Its not going to occur.

About Shari Harley

Shari Harley is the founder and President of Candid Culture, a Denver-based training firm that is bringing candor back to the workplace, making it easier to provide feedback at work. Shari is the author of the business communication book How to Say Anything to Anyone: A Guide to Building Business Relationships that Really Work. She is a keynote speaker at conferences and does training throughout the U.S. Learn more about Shari Harley and Candid Cultures training programs at www.candidculture.com.

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The individual who cancels conferences 2 minutes prior to meetings are arranged to start. If making a request is much easier than asking someone to alter their behavior, why not ask for what you desire upfront? Ask for what you desire at the beginning of a relationship, meeting, or project. If you want to begin and end conferences on time, inform people that during your first conference. If you have an existing habits you want to move, merely say, “I understood I didnt tell you that beginning and ending conferences on time is actually crucial to me.